March 6, 2018
I recently visited Becky Stidham as a last resort to help me with my food/eating issues; sugar addiction and purge/ binge habits. I have never gone to therapy before but the nutritionist I am currently working with suggested for me to consider visiting with Becky.
I discovered during my therapy session with Becky that I had been using food; particularly sugar, as a way to medicate my emotional stress; both past and present. I would binge on sugar when I was upset or hurt as a way to relieve and forget the negative emotions I was feeling. Then as a result of the binge I would feel guilty and ashamed, so then came the purge. I realized during the therapy session that I had a tremendous amount of hurt that I was holding onto from the past both with family relationships and myself.
Becky suggested a technique called Brainspotting. I had not heard of this before but was willing to try to free myself from these destructive behaviors and the intense cravings I seemed to always have for sugar. At first, I will admit, I felt very silly but then something happened. I began to have a rush of feelings, thoughts, tears...... lots and lots of tears and a sense of real physical discomfort in my chest. I was able to recognize and connect the thoughts and physical and emotional pain with the behaviors I had been participating in. With Becky’s help and guidance, I was able to release that pain, make peace with it and let it go.
After the session was complete, Becky asked me to think of something sweet I’d like to have as I had just gone through a significant amount of emotion by this time. I could not think of a single thing. I am somewhat of a skeptic because I have tried to kick these habits and rid myself of this demon for years, but a week later I was sitting in my car literally TRYING to have a sweet craving....nothing. As I write this testimonial, I am 1 month out from 1 session of Brainspotting and am still amazed at how much this technique has helped me!
I know it “stuck” because my husband and I just a few days ago had a very intense, heated “discussion”. In the past I would have sulked in my hurt with a bag of cookies, a bag of candy or a tub of ice cream. But not this time. I was able to work through my feelings and hurt, move past it, and let it go with no sugar, binge or purge involved.
A parent asked for help for her 11 yr old son with anger issues. He was easily triggered which led to explosive outbursts both at home and in school. He would bang his head on the wall during meltdowns. After one Brainspotting session, this is what his Mom said:
Becky, I wanted to let you know how transformational your work with my son has been!! He's much lighter, happier, calmer, more organized, more expressive, more connected, proactive, motivated, healthier appetite, more respectful...I could go On...
I've gotten so many wonderful compliments about him from teachers and staff at his school as well. Just WOW!!! L.S.
The first time I underwent a Brainspotting treatment, I did not know what to expect. Initially, I had gone in to combat anxiousness and fear related to a future major surgery. After the Brainspotting treatment, I felt so peaceful, my surgery was completed without incident and all my focus was on recovery and moving forward.
For my second Brainspotting session, I went in to overcome severe nervousness related to a large presentation I had to give. After the treatment, not only was I able to overcome this extreme angst, but I realized it was related to the first presentation I had to give back in 7th grade. Once I could let go of that specific incident, I found the anxiety move within my body and felt it linked with bullying episodes I experienced in elementary and middle school. Brainspotting not only helped me overcome these episodes I thought I had gotten past, but I have never felt so serene mentally and physically.
What has been most surprising is the lasting effects of the therapies. The therapy can be intense as my experience has led me to re-live some of those past hurts, but being able to finally let go of those episodes, has led to a healing that continues to be deep and lasting. After only two treatments, I feel more tranquil than I have felt in a very long time.
Now my anxiety only seems to pop up when there is another unresolved issue I seem to have buried deep within my psyche. But I know that I can go in for another treatment and be cured quickly. I feel more confident and more at peace with my own brain and body; those filters that those past incidents built are slowly disappearing. I feel more like me without the filters, and finally feel as though I am more open to people, events, and life that I held back from myself. Anyone can undergo treatment, I couldn’t recommend Brainspotting enough. R.C.
Today I saw Becky Stidham and it was the most amazing experience of my life. I was skeptical at first, but after a recent experience I had with former friends, I realized I had to do something about the constant pain and self-blame I felt in my heart. In addition, my concentration in work had been lost, and I had no motivation to continue what I used to be passionate about. Most of my thoughts were always directed to my darkest secret, an eating disorder I've had for ten years which I have mostly kept it hidden from others, it has been a black hole in my life that I kept falling deeper into. I also have suffered from anxiety and depression and take anti-depressants, but the medications have some horrible side effects. Previous therapies have not helped me. A friend referred me to Becky and she used Brainspotting to help me. When we started I had an anxiety level up to #10 level and pain in my chest. During the Brainspotting, my brain went back in time to countless experiences and relationships I have had related to anxiety. The experience is like nothing I have ever experienced. At some points I noticed all of the negative messages I say to myself, the pain in my chest seemed to come and go, and I began to have some positive thoughts and feelings. My processing took about an hour and after it was over, I could breath deeply without any anxiety. I know something is different (positive) and I FEEL JOYFUL and at ease with myself, I am no longer hearing the negative voices in my head that scream negative judgement, I know feel PEACE and this is truly an amazing awakening.
I have struggled with my weight most of my life and been in and out of therapy for an eating disorder on and off for twenty five years. My goal is be able to stick to a healthy eating plan without giving up. Recently, Becky Stidham used Brainspotting with me to try to get to the heart of my eating issues. I know I experience a sense of self-loathing after any binge eating episode. However, what I learned in the Brainspotting session is that the self-loathing is there ALL of the time and has been there most of my life. In this one session, not only did I have this realization, but the self-loathing is GONE. I've tried to conjure up this underlying feeling I’ve experienced most of my life and find that I can’t!
I had an appointment with Ms. Stidham for Brainspotting therapy. During the process many things came to mind spontaneously that had been forgotten for years. My anxiety level decreased while I was still in the office. Also, I am sleeping better. I will definitely go for another session.
Brainspotting allowed me to resolve a deep seated fear that I had not been able to previously identify but that I would feel when placed in certain social and personal situations. The feeling would manifest as a sharp pain in my mid-region even though the circumstances didn’t seem to warrant that level of reaction. I was able to connect this feeling to an event that happened to me as a very young child and now I have shined light on it and properly identify the true source of the fear.
Thanks, Ms. Becky for helping me smooth another wrinkle in my psychic rug.